Signs he is ready for marriage, is he? After all, marriage is a lifelong commitment. When you say “I Do” there is no way back. You are saying “I Do” to love and to cherish until death. Therefore, the person you say “I Do” to should demonstrate certain qualities. However, determining whether those qualities are genuine, especially early in the relationship; can be tricky.
But what signs do you look out for? And what traits suggest to you that he is genuine, and will make a good husband?
These are genuine questions that if answered early in the relationship will help you to determine if your boyfriends’ sole interest is in your body. And his main goal in the relationship is to satisfy his sexual desires.
So, without further ado, here are 3 telltale signs he is ready for marriage.
Signs he is ready for marriage: he connects with you emotionally
Does your boyfriend connect with you emotionally? If your boyfriend doesn’t connect with you emotionally, it’s a clear sign that he isn’t ready for marriage. I want to point out that women are emotional beings with emotional needs.
And if these emotional needs aren’t meet; it could spell problem down the road.
There are certain intangible facts about women than a man should know about. It isn’t just about her good looks, her gorgeous smile, or her beautiful eyes.
There is much more about a woman that a man should learn to appreciate. And a failure to do so will create a breakdown in the relationship.
Bible history teaches us that wives are the glue in solid marriages. However, husbands play an even more vital role in keeping the marriages intact. Mainly, because husbands have the responsibility to admonish and inspire their wives. And a marriage material man will inspire confidence and strength in a woman.
And it is for this reason men should get to know their girlfriends on an emotional level. Because it’s a terrible thing for any woman to marry a man and then later find out that he does not connect with her emotionally.
Not that any man can completely understand all his girlfriend emotions. But at best, he should understand the basic things of his girlfriend’s emotions.
Therefore, before a woman says “I Do” to a man, she must first ask herself this simple question. “Does this man fulfill me emotionally?”
And if he does not connect with you emotionally; it’s going to be difficult for him to please you sexually.
Moreover, if you marry a man that does not connect with you emotionally, and can’t please you sexually. What will happen is that you will begin to second guess your decision to get marry in the first place. You might even begin to dislike your spouse, and finding him to be unattractive. But don’t allow it to get to that point, before you say “I do,” make sure your boyfriend connects with you emotionally.
Sings He Connects with You Emotionally
- You feel comfortable displaying your wild side around him.
- He does not take your jokes personally.
- He allows you to express yourself freely.
- He always supports you.
- He encourages you in hard times.
- He respects your decisions and doesn’t criticize you when your judgments don’t match up with his standards.
- He isn’t judgmental.
- He knows when you need your space, and he isn’t offended when you ask to be alone.
- He knows how to make you laugh.
- He usually know when something is bothering you.
He does not connect with you emotionally, what to do?
Your boyfriend connects with you to some extent, but you want a deep emotional connection. What do you do? I have some suggestions to help you.
And the idea behind these suggestions is not to change your partner, but to encourage you to take active steps to heighten your boyfriend emotional senses. Because research has proved that 65 percent of men lack emotional intelligence.
Applying these suggestions will require you to listen, but more importantly to be patient.
Maintain high levels of communication with him. And don’t be turned off when he doesn’t respond to you emotionally.
Emotionally your boyfriend may not respond to you, but that doesn’t mean he isn’t taking notice. And if you keep at it, he will begin to appreciate and respond to you.
Ignore the negatives. You may try to get your boyfriend attention while he is watching a ball game, but he ignores you. What do you do next? Don’t get frustrated, instead watch the ball game with him.
Be patient and continue in trying to get his attention. And sooner rather than later; his conscience wouldn’t allow him to ignore you for too long.
Express your feeling to him. Men might not be good listeners, but they do listen. Tell your boyfriend how you are feeling, let him know exactly how you feel about his emotional incompetence.
Don’t go overboard with it, just enough to make him think about his lack of emotional interest for you.
Go to the ball game with him. Show him that you are into him, that you are in the relationship for the long-term. And by going to the game with your boyfriend will send him a message. Because he knows you don’t like going to the ball game, but because of him; you endure the agony. He may not acknowledge his appreciation for your commitment at first, but he gets the message loud and clear that you want the same in return.
Don’t try forcing him to change. Don’t be judgmental of him, don’t tell him you want him to change, don’t nag at him. But be an ever-present, reinforcing voice of support to him.
Signs he is ready for marriage: he leads
Is your boyfriend a leader? Does he exhibit leadership qualities?
Every wife needs their husbands to lead. And there are many husbands who want to be the boss in their house. Many of them take pleasure in giving instructions and expect their spouses to follow.
But few husbands are leaders, not a dictator, not a tyrant, but a real leader. And a real leader is someone with a vision, conviction, and character.
To have a vision means to have a sense of direction. Where do you intend to take your family? What are your plans for your household? Spiritual, financial, and otherwise. Where do you see your household in the next five to ten years?
Without a vision, families and households will struggle to stay afloat. But a good leader will answer these questions. And share them with his spouse so that she knows where he is leading the family.
Also, every good leader has an inward conviction to achieve his vision. And a conviction speaks of an attitude or a mindset that the vision will come to past. There isn’t any indecision about it, and it does not matter how difficult things get, the vision will not fade away.
And finally, to have character means to remain faithful to your family while pursuing the vision. The wife, when she looks at her husband, she must see a man with the vision for the family.
She must see a man that keeps putting his family first, a man that does not change. A man that does not abandon his family in pursuit of other opportunities elsewhere.
So, ladies, if you plan on marring your boyfriend; make sure he has a vision mixed with conviction, and character.
Signs He’s a Leader:
- He takes the initiative with your advice.
- He talks about his plans.
- He is disciplined and has self-control.
- He manages his time well, and he doesn’t procrastination.
- He doesn’t give up easily.
- He isn’t lazy.
- He shows respect for your parents.
- He wants to introduce you to his parents.
- He wants to meet your parents.
- He isn’t bothered by people’s negative comments concerning the relationship.
- He protects you, and you feel safe around him.
- He doesn’t stay upset with you for long.
- He quickly forgives you if you did something that offended him.
- He isn’t a dictator.
- He respects your friends.
- He doesn’t verbally or physically abuse you.
Signs he is ready for marriage: he pays close attention to you
Does he pay close attention to you? A wife needs a husband who will pay attention to her. One thing I have learned about women over the years is that women love when men pay close attention to them. Not just listening but paying attention to their desires, and their conversations.
When a husband does not pay close attention to his wife, he is putting her into an uncomfortable position. Because, if she leaves the house, and she meets someone willing to give more attention to her than she’s getting at home. She can fall victim to loneliness and even cheat without realizing how it happened.
Sad to say, men, especially young men don’t know this. Some men believe paying the bills and satisfying their wives sexually is enough, but it’s not.
Husbands who get the best out of their wives are those who pay close attention to them.
So it is for this reason a woman should carefully consider your boyfriend before getting married to him.
I love him, but he doesn’t give me enough attention, what to do?
You love your boyfriend, and he loves you. But your problem is – he doesn’t give you enough attention, and he doesn’t observe as you desire.
When a man doesn’t give his girlfriend the attention she needs, it’s a sign he’s not serious about the relationship.
But that’s not the issue here, you know he loves you, and he’s interested in the relationship – but you want him to pay more attention to you.
So, here are a few things you can do to get your boyfriend’ undivided attention.
Talk to him. Tell him how you feel about his lack of attention toward you. See what he says, and then try to understand and accommodate his perspective of what giving attention is.
This may sound surprising, but some men don’t know what it means to give attention to their partners.
Ignore him. You have already spoken to him; you told him how you feel, but he doesn’t mend his ways.
Your best option at this stage is to ignore him, pretend that you don’t care about him anymore.
Meet new friends. Go out and fun. And if he calls, ignore him. Don’t reply to his messages, and stop doing him favors. Soon he will get the message, and if he truly loves you – he will give you the attention you observe.
Be happy with yourself. There’s nothing more annoying to your boyfriend than to see you happy and joyful. And he isn’t the reason for it.
One of the best ways of getting your boyfriend to pay close attention to you is by being yourself. And by being happy with yourself.
Don’t make your boyfriend feel you can’t do without him, show him that you can find happiness without him.
Don’t spoil him, but following through with these thoughtful suggestions will work like a charm.
Signs He’s Good at Paying Close Attention
- He knows exactly what to say at any given moment.
- He knows what gifts to buy you.
- He knows the people you like and those you dislike.
- He knows when to keep quiet.
- He knows your favorite colors and foods.
- He remembers your birthday.
- He observes your family traditions.
Each woman has their preference of what to look for in a future husband. These traits aren’t all there is to know. There is more, base on your traditions, background, and culture, the list can go on.
But my experiences being a husband, and observations being a pastor/counselor, I have found these three traits to be the most common in a good husband.
If you may, you can add to this list of “3 Telltale Signs He is Ready for Marriage” in your comment below.
Currently a pastor, I devote most of my time to the ministry. I have been actively serving in ministry for roughly ten years now, and in that time; I have encountered countless trials and cruel hardships.
But somehow, through God’s grace; I overcame. And the one thing I have learned from those encounters – trust God.
Therefore, using my experiences and my relationship with God. I now seek to inspire and encourage those who visit my blog.
And may God continue to bless and enrich you greatly.